* Technology has changed the way we see dating and relationships
* These self-help books offer advice on how to navigate these new waters
* They are top rated by reviewers on Amazon
There are currently 124.6 million single people in America, which means there are millions of people currently looking for love, and many of them are finding it hard to come by. American singles will spend roughly $80 million a year on dating, and many are taking different tactics to try to find the one. While it’s estimated that around 10% of singles are using dating apps, another 21% think online daters are desperate and would presumably prefer to find love IRL.
There are many different approaches people take when it comes to dating, so rather than dish the advice ourselves, we’ve looked toward people who are in the thick of it, and selected some of the best reviewed dating advice books from the people who have read them. From spiritual approaches to scientific ones, there’s something for everyone if you’re looking to find the one.
1. Never Chase Men Again: 38 Dating Secrets To Get The Guy, Keep Him Interested, And Prevent Dead-End Relationships
Bruce Bryans gives empowering advice on the importance of self-love before loving another person. He provides helpful tactics on how to spot the guys who aren’t worth your time, and weed out the ones who will appreciate you. With 4 1/2 stars, reviewers appreciate Bryans’ straightforward advice on behavior that leads to finding fulfilling, long-term love.
2. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love
This book by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller has been featured on the Amazon bestseller charts, and has been called “a groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship” by the bestselling author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Written by both a psychiatrist and a neuroscientist, the book uses science to look at relationships and interpersonal patterns, and explain why some people have such difficulty with them. It analyzes how different attachment styles as well anxiety come into play, and offers suggestions on how to build a healthier bond and find more compatible partners with your own attachment style.
3. Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age
Holding down a stellar five-star rating on Amazon, this book by Ben Stuart looks at what love and relationships mean in 2019. It unpacks the interesting statistic that for the first time ever, the average age of American women having children (26 years old) is younger than the average age of women getting married (27 year old). This book not only looks at the current state of relationships, and the different stages involved, but also gives practical advice on how to navigate these increasingly muddy waters.
4. Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve
Matthew Hussey, host of reality show Ready for Love, uses his years of relationship coaching and matchmaking experience to pen a book by exposing patterns of the male mind to tell you what the most effective strategies for communicating with them. After years of working with men in a coaching and confidence building capacity, he now uses what he’s learnt to help women find-and keep-the guy that’s right for them.
5. The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why?
If you prefer relationship advice from a Christian perspective, this book from the best-selling author of Sacred Marriage, takes a different perspective by not focusing on the search for the perfect person, so much as making the most of the person you’re with. Through practical, spiritually charged advice, Gary Thomas highlights how we often get so lost in looking for an “ideal” relationship, we miss what’s great about the one we’re already in.