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* Protect yourself from these 5 types of toxic people
* They can affect you psychologically, emotionally and physically
* Spot the red flags and avoid at all cost
In the world of online dating, more and more people are diving into the unknown in hopes of seeking a potential bae. Romance aside, it’s important to stay safe and diligent with who you meet online; it’s also vital that you’re able to identify individuals you should avoid altogether. Here are 5 types of toxic people you should never, ever date and how you can spot the red flags.
Here’s the thing with psychopaths: they seem completely normal especially to unsuspecting targets. People with this personality disorder (think: Ted Bundy and John Wayne Gacy) are fully aware of the consequences derived from their actions. However, even if they know right from wrong, their self-centered and inability to care traits are what makes them so terrifying. Pick up a copy of Dr. Robert D. Hare’s book, “Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us” to understand how the mind of psychopaths work and better yet, how you can protect yourself.
In her book, “The Sociopath Next Door,” Harvard psychologist Martha Stout presents a shocking stat: 1 in 25 everyday Americans is secretly a sociopath. This could be your colleague, neighbor and yes, the guy or gal you just met on Tinder.
How do we recognize the remorseless? To arm us against the charm of the charismatic sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.
Think you’re dating a narcissist? The “Danger: 50 Things You Should Not Do With A Narcissist” book from H G Tudor offers an insightful guide to what you should avoid when in the company of a narcissist. Delivered in a no-nonsense and easy-to-understand style, this book offers a range of helpful and interesting facts and observations so that you can easily spot a narcissist when you see one. Pick up a copy for a friend or colleague who you feel may benefit from this eye-opening book.
4. Manipulative People
Whether it’s someone you’ve met online or at a coffee shop, now you can arm yourself with the facts on the behaviors of manipulative people who may be out to hurt you, thanks to Dr. George Simon and his book, “In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People.”
Dr. Simon’s eye-opening book will help you spot a potential manipulative person in your life while offering 12 thought-provoking tools for personal empowerment and how you can redefine the rules of engagement with someone who suffers from people manipulation.
5. Borderline Personality Disorder
Don’t fall prey to those suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Discover what they’re capable of with Margalis Fjelstad’s compelling book, “Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life.”
People with Borderline PD may appear normal at work or at a public outing, but when it comes to intimate relationships, they can quickly become emotional, aggressive, demeaning and paranoid. Fjelstad describes how people can easily take on a “Caretaker” role when dealing with a Borderline PD.
The book examines the expectations in these relationships and offer helpful tips on how these “Caretakers” can lead a healthier and more positive lifestyle — with or without their Borderline/Narcissistic partner.