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Long-distance relationships are tough. Whether it’s because of work, graduate school or any number of life items that pop up right around the time you want to get serious with someone, being together apart is sometimes necessary. That doesn’t make it any easier, though, and staying connected can be a challenge.
We all know damn well at this point just how harsh separation from people can be mentally, emotionally and especially physically. When you’re used to seeing and touching your partner regularly, a long time spent apart can leave you wanting some things — craving them, even. For these reasons, we’re big fans of Bluetooth sex toys, which are some of our favorite sex toys for couples.
One of the hardest parts of being apart when in a relationship is keeping your sex life alive and thriving. Virtual sex and mutual pleasuring over the phone are great ways to keep each other satisfied, especially when fun sex games and other surprises are in the mix, too. But what if you could control your partner’s pleasure remotely just as you would in person?
Thankfully, there is a new technology that can make that happen, and it’s glorious. Teledildonics — sex toys that can be connected via remote control, apps or synced devices — opens up exciting new possibilities for long-distance lovers.
What Are Teledildonics?
Sex toys have always been a means of connection for people – whether you’re connecting with your innermost animal self or with a partner, they’re one of the oldest forms of self-care that we have on this planet.
Thanks to technology, toys have come a long way in terms of body-safe material, realistic textures, and functionals. Teledildonic devices are basically high-tech, interactive toys that can be controlled via Bluetooth or WiFi to the internet, or your smartphone.
Partners can control sensations from afar, and some toys can even sync to the music, or an erotic novels. There are discreet wearable stimulators for both men and women available, as well as less discreet models designed for at-home usage only.
Sex is all about exploring, and these toys are helping us explore better than ever, enhancing pleasure all over the globe.
Ideas for Games With or Without Bluetooth Sex Toys
- Virtual masturbation sessions: Think visually stimulating Facetime sessions where you use a toy or hands. You can watch practice mutual masturbation, watch porn together via a screen share, dress up (or down), and even set up a sexy green screen.
- Sext, but make it audio: Voice notes are way more intimate than reading a text, so put on your sexiest voice and tell your partner what you want to do to them, or want them to do to themselves.
- Make your own literature: Writing letters is an ancient art, and it’s way more of a turn-on than a purple eggplant emoji. Consider writing a seductive letter – perhaps a role-play story, a naughty instruction manual, or your deepest fantasy.
Whether you’re interested in taking your tech to the next level or just want some tips for keeping it hot in your separate bedrooms, we’ve got a list for you. Check out our favorite Bluetooth sex toys and sex gifts for long-distance relationships.
1. OhMiBod blueMotion Nex|2
You can’t talk about the best Bluetooth sex toys without talking about OhMiBod, which brought app-connected sex toys into the mainstream. This innovative sex toy brand is known for making premium sex toys that can be enjoyed solo or with a partner — even a partner on the other side of the world. By allowing your partner to control the intensity, duration and vibration pattern, you can bring an extra level of intimacy and excitement to phone sex and other types of long-distance lovemaking. The blueMotion Nex|2 is one of the latest OhMiBod sex toys to be released, and this G-spot vibrator is a splash-proof toy made from body-safe silicone.
2. Lovense Nora And Max 2 Long-Distance Sex Toy
BEST RUNNER UP
These Bluetooth sex toys with multiple connective possibilities, sold under “value packs”, make magic when combined. With both male and female counterparts that let you control and manipulate your partner’s pleasure from miles away, the male toy moves like a sleeve, manipulating the vibrational speed of the female toy. The female toy pumps more air into the male sex toy, mimicking vaginal contractions as the vibrator moves. The two toys work in sync, along with a fully encrypted app for added security. Use the Intelligent Playback feature to record your individual session and let your partner use it later on if you can’t sync up in real-time, like many military couples do.
3. LoveSense Lush 3
BEST G-SPOT PICK
The Lush 3 can be enjoyed solo or used by couples, as you turn over control of this vibrator to a partner. This functionality can make for a particularly X-rated date night, and the possibilities for long-distance relationships should be obvious as well. It’s earned rave reviews for its particularly intense vibrations (although there are less intense settings, too). The Lush 3 also has an impressive battery life, is easy to connect to your devices and is IPX7 waterproof. It’s also more affordable than similar sex toys from OhMiBod and WeVibe.
4. We-Vibe Melt Bluetooth Sex Toy
BEST FOR HER
If you’re a lady who’s missing oral stimulation from your partner, this We-Vibe Melt sex toy is specifically designed for you and fulfilling your needs. It’s equipped with pleasure air technology and is designed for couples wanting to pleasure each other from afar with the We-Connect app that syncs and offers control features. It’s ergonomically designed for ideal placement, has 12 levels of intensity and has Bluetooth bonding to protect you from signal interruption.
5. Kiiroo Onyx Pearl2 Purple Couples Bluetooth Sex Toy Set
BEST FOR HIM
This set includes a male masturbator that mimics the sensations of oral stimulation from afar and can reach speeds up to 140 strokes per minute. The rotating motor works in a lateral motion with ten rings inside of the sleeve to stimulate real intercourse and comes with a G-spot vibrator for your partner to use as well, near you or far away. Control your partner’s pleasure with a touch-sensitive pad on your toy, and let them do the same to you from theirs.
6. SVAKOM Bluetooth Vibrating Egg
BEST WATERPROOF PICK
This vibrating egg from SVAKOM is the perfect waterproof option for switching up her routine. It’s got an ergonomic design and five different modes to choose between via the smartphone app. The ribbed design increases pleasure and the battery lasts for hours. It’s made of high-quality silicone that’s waterproof so she can enjoy it submerged.
7. Remoji: DIVER Egg Vibe Cerise
Sometimes the sexiest of situations happen when you’re least expecting them. The Remoji DIVER Egg Vibe Cruise is meant to be worn whenever, wherever and is completely controlled by a partner of your choice. It has six almost silent vibrations that will send her on a wild ride wherever she might be. In the office? Turn it on. At the store? Turn it on. Lunch with friends? Turn it on and let the consensual surprise fun begin.
8. Lovense Hush Bluetooth Butt Plug
BEST ANAL PICK
Now you can sync you or your partner’s pleasure with a song of your choosing with this vibrating butt plug that syncs up with music easily. This versatile plug works in long-distance settings as well as discretely out in public with an easy-to-use app and comfortable design. It’s made of 100% silicone with spirals on the neck for easy removal and a reliable neck that will make sure it stays put. It’s waterproof, totally wireless, has powerful vibrations and can be controlled from any distance via a WiFi connection. Crank up the tunes and the pleasure at the same time.
9. Mystery Vibe Crescendo Bluetooth Bendable Smart Vibrator
If you want flexibility in the bedroom, check out this innovative and extremely versatile Bluetooth sex toy. This Crescendo Vibrator from Mystery Vibe bends, twists and adapts to your body’s shape and your unique needs as you enjoy it. It’s made of smooth silicone designed to move and groove with you as your pleasure is controlled via an app in your partner’s hands. It’s got 12 patterns to choose from and 16 intensity levels for bodies and preferences of all kinds. Don’t limit yourself to one shape, enjoy this flexible toy and the Bluetooth capabilities that come with it.
10. LELO F1S™ V2
BEST MALE MASTURBATOR
Dudes masturbate – we all know this. Next time you need to help out your long-distance man on his next solo sesh, have a little fun with it by controlling the time he has with the LELO F1S™ V2. This massaging male masturbator will give his penis the pleasure it deserves with all the control you’re offering through the LELO app. There are 10 performance sensors for the solo orgasm of his dreams and cleanup is also effortless.
11. We-Vibe Moxie Wearable Vibrator Bluetooth Sex Toy
BEST WEARABLE OPTION
Why limit yourself to the confines of your bedroom? This wearable vibrator is perfect for couples who want to take their Bluetooth sex toys out for a walk around the block, socially distanced of course. No one has to know what’s going on beneath the surface with this discreet but powerful stimulator. It’s small, comfortable to wear and almost noiseless. The Moxie has a magnet clip so it’ll stay in place as long as you want it to and has an app your partner can control from anywhere. It’s waterproof and made of high-quality silicone that won’t irritate most skin types.
12. Svakom EmmaNeo Warming App-Enabled Wand Massager
This luxe-looking wand massage complete with rabbit ears attachment makes the wand experience remote. Plus, the massager has built-in warming technology that makes sure your bits are never shocked. It also helps sore muscles when you’re not feeling freaky. A sound-activated mode even syncs these vibes to your favorite music, and there are plenty of other programmed modes to explore, whether you’re using the wand during foreplay or a means to orgasm.
13. We-Vibe Pivot Vibrating Ring
Penis rings can help men last longer and stay harder. Now, you can combine that sensation with 10 pre-set vibration modes. Made from stretchy and high-quality silicone, it’s also rechargeable, so you never have to worry about running out of batteries. The Pivot slips onto your shaft, as the quiet yet powerful motor works to buzz you with heavenly vibrations. Wear it alone and let bae control from afar – when you’re finally together, experience the toy in person and let all that tension finally explode.
14. Minna kGoal
BEST KEGEL PICK
Minna makes functional sec toys that are equal part design and function. The unassuming vibrator helps to complete Kegels, and has one twist: when the insertable portion is inside, and the wearer squeezes during a set of Kegels, the strength of the squeeze dictates how strong the resulting vibration is. Who doesn’t want a workout and a mind-blowing orgasm at the same time? It also comes with an app so you can track progress. For hand-held vibes, squeeze the bulb in your hand to be active.
15. The Motorbunny
BEST SEX MACHINE
While The Cowgirl and The Sybian are the most popular ride-able virtual sex experiences, they’re often sold out and cost a pretty penny. To introduce yourself to these epic machines will be a smaller investment, consider saddling up for the Motorbunny. Along with wireless control, the device has voice commands and can be synced with music or integrated with gaming – all for under $1,000. There’s also a more expensive version called the Motorbunny Buck which realistically stimulates thrusting.