The best sex toys can bring up a lot of emotions. They can be intimidating, scary, fun, titillating and downright sensational if you pick the right one for you. There’s a vast world of sex toys out there that ranges from straightforward, classic vibrators to inflatable butt plugs that’ll puzzle you the first time you lay eyes on them. However, this world opens up a host of exciting possibilities for you and your partner’s pleasure. So if you’re searching for the best sex toys for couples, or just shopping for your own enjoyment, we’re here to be your guide.
One of the great gifts that third-wave feminism gave the world is the philosophy of sex-positivity. This simple but powerful idea teaches that so long as your sex life involves activities between consenting adults, there’s no reason to feel inhibited or ashamed. That might mean hurried sex in the missionary position and the lights off, or a no-holes-barred group play session.
Being kink positive is a corollary of the sex-positive ethos. It’s a pretty self-explanatory concept, and sex- and kink-positive thinking has given the millennial generation permission to let their freak flags fly. Whether you’re into bondage, cross-dressing, pegging or threesomes, there’s no reason to feel inhibited in this brave and sexy new world. Even if you’re into something really kinky, like saving yourself for marriage, there’s no reason to feel ashamed of your sexuality.
Keep reading to discover award-winning and top-rated sex toys including Bluetooth-enabled vibrators, BDSM toys, sex toys for couples and more. These toys will help you reach an “O” harder, better, faster and stronger. They let you pleasure yourself on your own in a more fulfilling way and/or make your sexual experiences with a partner mind-blowingly amazing. In this piece, we’re going to cover a wide range of sex toys, as well as a bunch of helpful content around choosing one for you.
We’re going to walk you through a brief history of sex toys, a guide for choosing the best sex toys for you, some common FAQs when it comes to sex toys and a guide for cleaning your sex toys. Ready? Let’s dive in.
How To Choose the Best Sex Toys for You
In researching the best sex toys, we talked to Dr. Jill McDevitt, a resident sexologist for the brand CalExotics. Dr. McDevitt holds three different degrees in the field of human sexuality. She notes that “the best sex toys are the ones that best meet your specific sexual need and goal (for instance clitoral stimulation during intercourse, or g-spot thrusting, or penile stroking, etc), but I do have go-to sex toys that I recommend to clients.” (We’ll cover those later on.)
In general, the best adult toys ever invented are made of body-safe materials, are durable, work discreetly and have a cult following. In reviewing the best sex toys of all time, you’ll sometimes find that a specific brand has become a generic name for an entire category of sex toys, like Fleshlights or Magic Wands. In addition to these famous sex toys, we’ve also included a few general categories like strap-ons and vibrators.
As an overview, you can classify most adult toys into one of the following categories:
- Clitoral stimulators
- Anal toys
- Male masturbation aids
- Futuristic technologies
We’ve included a few of each on our list. So, no matter your gender, sexuality or anatomy, we’ve got something for you. This list is extensive, but we’ve divided it up into five different categories that hopefully cover most of the sex toys you would want to buy. These include:
- Sex toys for couples
- Sex toys for men
- Sex toys for women
- BDSM sex toys
- Anal sex toys for couples
Hopefully, by the end of this guide, you’ll have found a toy that suits you and your current sexual needs, future sexual desires, or both!
Sex Toys for Couples
When you learned about sex as a young adult, we’re guessing sex toys for couples were never part of the conversation. Until recently, there was a taboo surrounding sex toys, and even the world’s best sex toys for couples were only available in sketchy sex shops off the highway. However, the world is growing more sex-positive, and a number of feminist sex toy brands made to facilitate equal sex between partners have arrived on the market. Here are some of our favorites.
TIANI 3 Couple’s Vibrator
LELO is a luxury sex toy company that makes some of the best sex toys in the world for men, women, non-binary folks, couples and throuples. The brand’s TIANI 3 couple’s vibrator provides intense sensations for both partners during penetrative sex, and it’s made from the highest quality materials for sophisticated yet sexy fun. By vibrating internally and externally at once, this powerful couple’s vibrator will make you feel sensations you’ve never felt before. Plus, the TIANI 3 comes with a remote control for extra fun. We know LELO sex toys aren’t cheap, but the brand’s premium sex toys are absolutely worth the investment.
Eva II Hands-Free Vibrator
Dame is another upscale sex toy brand that we love, and the company is known for making really innovative sex toys. And we’ve never seen a couple’s sex toy quite like this before. The Eva II provides clitoral stimulation during sex and is designed to stay in place hands-free, which means you can focus on each other instead of awkwardly positioning a sex toy. The Eva II is also waterproof, made of medical-grade silicone and features three vibration speeds.
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Trojan Vibrations Hot Spot Vibrating Ring
Unfortunately, many high quality sex toys can set you back $100 or $200. That’s why this simple vibrating cock ring is such a delight. This $8 vibrating ring easily slips over penises of all sizes and provides a little something extra during sex. It’s easy to use, unobtrusive and fun for both partners. Even if you and your partner prefer a more vanilla-flavored sex life, this vibrating ring is the perfect toy to keep in your nightstand for special occasions. For all these reasons, this vibrating ring is one of the best sex toys for couples.
OhMiBod Remote Vibrators
BEST FOR A NIGHT OUT
Thanks to companies like OhMiBod and We-Vibe, even long-distance couples can choose from a range of remote- and Bluetooth-controlled sex toys. OhMiBod has a reputation for making some of the world’s best couple’s sex toys; however, the Club Vibe offers something really unique. Slip the discreet vibrator into a pair of panties and head out for a night of dancing. The toy will vibrate in time with the music. You can also hand over the remote control to your partner for a particularly adventurous date night.
While the ability to vibe with the music is fun, if your clubbing days are behind you, then you may way to check out one of OhMiBod’s other remote sex toys, such as the Esca2. The Esca2 is more versatile than the Club Vibe, and this wearable vibrator offers Bluetooth and app-controlled sexy times. That means you can interact with your partner no matter how far apart you are.
BEST FOR BEGINNERS
We-Vibe makes premium vibrating sex toys for couples. This award-winning brand makes toys that are primarily designed for enhancing her pleasure, but this vibrating couple’s sex toy is designed to provide all-around stimulation for both partners. After insertion, the We-Vibe Unite provides both G-spot and clitoral stimulation for her. This toy can be worn during sex, and thanks to its slim profile, it leaves plenty of room for penetration, which provides additional stimulation for him.
LELO TOR 2
BEST VIBRATING RING
For an excellent, reusable, rechargeable, long-lasting vibrating cock ring, you can’t do much better than the LELO TOR 2. Whatever you think you would want or need in a cock ring, the TOR 2 delivers. It’s made of silicone and fully waterproof, flexible enough for most penises and uses two basic plus, minus buttons to control the six levels of vibration. And, best of all, the TOR 2 will run for up to 90 minutes before needing a charge, which means less worrying about the toy and more focusing on each other. (We will say that this ring is sized for average-sized guys, so men with larger penises may want to try something else.)
Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow
BEST FOR NEW POSITIONS
If you and your significant other ever find yourself tiring out during a particularly daring sex position, then a well-positioned sex pillow may be the solution. The Liberator Wedge is a sex positioning pillow designed to help couples explore every position they want. This 27-degree pillow is covered in a machine-washable microfiber cloth.
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Adam & Eve Scarlet Couture Spank Me Paddle
BEST FOR A LIGHT SPANKING
Experienced BDSM couples might think of this as a beginner’s toy, and perhaps it is. But if you and your partner are interested in exploring paddling and spanking, this flexible paddle is ideal for couples who don’t want it to hurt too much. Made from vegan leather, the Spank Me Paddle from Adam & Eve can add a little more variety in the bedroom.
Rub Me Massage Bar
BEST FOR FOREPLAY
Every couple treats foreplay differently, but we can all agree that a sensual massage never hurts, whether sex is happening or not. We can also agree that traditional massage oils are messy as hell. That’s where a massage bar comes in. The Rub Me Massage Bar is made from cocoa butter, shea butter and essential oil, so all you do is rub the bar on your hands or your partner’s body. Each bar is good for 10 to 12 massages, and you can choose from unscented, bergamot and black tea, coconut lime and English lavender.
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Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-on Dildo Harness
BEST FOR ROLE REVERSAL
It’s a brave new world out there, and many men are starting to recognize the explosive possibilities of anal play. At the same time, strap-on dildo harnesses have been popular in the lesbian community for ages. This is a great set for beginners, as it has everything you need to get started, including a pair of silicone 5.6-inch and 8-inch dildos. The harness also comes with three interchangeable o-rings so you can test out all the dildos your heart desires.
According to the experts we talked to, when it comes to strap-on dildo harnesses, you usually have to choose between form and function, with the latter being more important. So while there are more attractive-looking harness sets out there, the best strap-on setups tend to have a utilitarian look. Lovehoney’s deluxe harness is fully adjustable and fits up to a 67-inch waist.
Adam & Eve Naughty Couples Door Swing
BEST SEX SWING
Sometimes, spicing up the bedroom can be as simple as having sex anywhere but the bed. If you want to take that line of thinking to the max, you might consider picking up the Adam & Eve Naughty Couples Door Swing.
This sex swing hangs over the back of any door, turning any room into a sex room. Just adjust the swing to the appropriate height and you or your partner can use the stirrups and handles to get into the position of your choice and probably some positions you never thought possible.
That being said, always exercise caution when using a sex swing like this. Be careful not to exceed the 220-pound weight limit and make sure the swing is secure in the door before climbing aboard. Nothing kills sexy time faster than an injury!
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Goodhead Deep Throat Spray and the Goodhead Kit For Him
BEST TO SPICE UP ORAL PLAY
Sex definitely doesn’t have to be all about intercourse. Sometimes nothing is more thrilling than mutual masturbation or mutual oral. But even the best sexual play can lose some of its novelty over time, and that’s where Goodhead’s products can help. The Goodhead Deep Throat Spray and the Goodhead Kit For Him are guaranteed to change up any couple’s oral game for the better.
The spray uses a little bit of benzocaine to desensitize the back of the throat and minimize the gag reflex. The kit contains minty oral gel, a pack of oral sex mints, a vibrating penis ring, a flavored lip balm and, in case you’re totally lost, an oral sex tip card.
The only concern: When dealing with anything that numbs sensations, be careful not to overuse it. Though a gag reflex might be inconvenient in this one scenario, it exists for a reason and you always want to retain some sensation to practice sex safely.
Adam & Eve Flavored Lubricant
BEST FLAVORED LUBE
Flavored lube is a classic way to make oral sex a little more palatable for the giver. The Adam & Eve Flavored Lubricant promises to add a little flavor to your oral play, whether you want cherry, cotton candy or strawberry flavor. And the lube is sugar-free, so neither you nor your partner will have to worry about infections.
Monogamy A Hot Affair With Your Partner Game
ALSO CONSIDER ADULT GAME
If you want an adult game that is more of an actual game, the Monogamy A Hot Affair With Your Partner Game could be exactly what you’re looking for. Two players take turns rolling dice and performing the action on the space they land on, including stripping, erotic dancing and massaging. Players can also land on squares to collect cards with erotic questions, fantasies and dares. The winner is the first to get around the board six times and then he or she can pick a fantasy card to do.
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Best Sex Toys for Men
Riley Reid Fleshlight
If you’re a straight guy, then you know the name Riley Reid. In fact, we would go so far as to say that the award-winning adult entertainer is probably one of the most famous people in the world. When she’s not making porn, taking your guy friends’ money on OnlyFans and starring in her own documentary, Reid also works with Fleshlight on her own line of branded strokers. She has two signature textures — Utopia and Euphoria, each one featuring fantastic textures and pockets of pleasure. It has tight, stimulating spots as well as ribbed pleasure channels. The coiled design makes it uniquely stimulating for all.
LELO Billy 2 Vibrating Prostate Massager
When reviewing the best male sex toys, we named the LELO Billy 2 as the best vibrating massager for stimulating the prostate. We love LELO, a luxury sex toy brand that makes beautifully designed and effective sex toys for men, women, non-binary folks, couples, throuples and everyone else. This prostate massager has multiple settings so you can find the vibration that really works for you. Whether you’re an anal play beginner or a seasoned pro, this vibrating prostate massager is best in class.
Pink Lady Original Fleshlight
A fleshlight is considered one of the best sex toys for men, and this one is available to order on Amazon and is backed with amazing ratings. It’s super easy to use and clean, and comes with strong suction for a realistic experience guaranteed to please! It’s made with patented SuperSkin material designed to be soft, lifelike and blow you away.
Screaming O Vibrating Ring
This vibrating cock ring from Screaming O comes highly rated for its ability to help both individuals in a couple orgasm, by stimulating the clitoris. It’s made of a flexible material designed to stretch around the penis and has pleasure nodes on the end that deliver vibration to the woman. The vibrating motor provides micro pulses that both individuals will enjoy, and it’s designed disposable so you can simply toss it when you’re done!
CalExotics Optimum Power Masturball
This innovative sex toy from CalExotics has multiple functions built into one sex toy, and has customizable levels of each. Dr. McDevitt explains it as “part penis stroker, part vibrator, and it also has 3 functions of compression from squeeze pads that customize the level of tightness, all within a self-contained unit.”
This toy comes with many different options that build upon the experience of a fleshlight and take it to the next level. Each squeeze pads adjust the level of tightness you feel with each stroke, and the tickling will help you reach new levels of climax you didn’t think possible. The easy-to-use silicone buttons on the device help you switch between the various functions and the chamber sleeves are easy-to-clean and require no special care before or after use.
Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage
BEST TIME + ENERGY SAVER
The Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage is as great for couples as it is for solo use. While we’re certain nobody objects to using their hands and mouths during foreplay, this toy can make the task a whole lot easier and more exciting for him and her. The toy is made from Fleshlight’s patented life-like SuperSkin material, with nodules for added stimulation for him, and the material is transparent, which is visually stimulating for both. And when you are finished, the toy cleans up easily, thanks to caps on both ends, allowing you to run water straight through it.
Best Sex Toys for Women
Hitachi Magic Wand
Originally designed as a sports massager, the Hitachi Magic Wand was a huge part of the sex-positive feminist movement of the 1970s. Before the days of Amazon and mail-order sex toys, it was much easier for women to go into a department store to buy something for their sore muscles than it was to ask for a vibrator. The invention allowed many women around the world to experience orgasmic masturbation for the first time. The Magic Wand became so entwined in the sex industry, that eventually Hitachi took its name off the device. Today, it’s sold in the US by Vibratex and is simply known as the Magic Wand Original. Countless women can testify that it’s a powerfully effective vibrator.
In addition to those glowing reviews, Sexologist Alex Miller with Orchid Toys notes that “the Hitachi Magic Wand, which started it all, deserves its spot in the hall of fame not only because it was the first readily available toy but because it provides STRONG stimulation externally, which although not a guarantee for everyone, certainly works for providing pleasure to most women. Some toys work better for some women, but it’s almost never bad to suggest someone try the Magic Wand.”
Rabbit Habit Deluxe
The second most famous vibrator of all time has to be the Rabbit. Originally marketed in Japan in 1983 by Vibratex, these vibrators were popularized in the U.S. by the 1990s TV show Sex and the City. Today, rabbit vibrators refer generally to any vibrating dildo that combines internal g-spot stimulation with vibrating rabbit ears for clitoral stimulation. Together these two parts stimulate both the vagina and the clitoris, allowing for the ultimate orgasm. Since day one, sex toy competitors around the globe have been creating their own versions of the rabbit vibrator, and today, there are plenty of these sex toys featuring soft silicone exteriors and multi-vibrational motors.
If you’re looking for the classic Rabbit Vibrator, you want the Rabbit Pearl, which features three types of motion: “a lavender shaft that twirls for g-spot stimulation, ‘pearls’ that stimulate the sensitive opening of the vagina, and rabbit ears that flutter along the clitoris.” There are dozens of variations on this popular sex toy to choose from (Love Honey has exactly 69 different models), but the Rabbit Habit below is the most famous.
Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Wand Vibrator
This wand vibrator boasts 30% more power than the Hitachi wand. The cast aluminum head pulses powerfully for maximum pleasure and has a cushioned cover over it for comfort. It has user-friendly buttons that help you change settings between the deep rumble, energetic frequencies and other settings. This wand does require being plugged in in order to work, so keep that in mind if you prefer flexibility.
Mumu Sugar Wand Massager
This wand massager comes very highly rated on Amazon and is a great, affordable sex toy if you’re just starting off and don’t want to drop $80 right off the bat. It’s made of super-soft, food-grade silicone and works cordless, so you’ve got flexibility in terms of where you use it. It’s also waterproof, comes with eight speeds and 20 different powerful vibration modes.
Better Love Lily Vibrator
For a modern take on the classic Rabbit vibrator, you’ll want to go with the best-selling and reasonably-priced Better Love Lily vibrator, which is currently for sale via Ella Paradis. It’s made with dual motors for double the pleasure, and has ten different speed modes but operates quietly so you won’t blow the roof off your thin-walled apartment. It’s 100% waterproof and made with easy-touch buttons that are simple to operate.
We-Vibe Nova Rabbit Vibrator
This vibrator can be controlled via an app, adding to the potential sexual exploits you can get up to with a partner, and has a dual motor for both the G-spot and clitoral stimulation. The vibrator is made to have an adjustable shape and flexibility so you can find the perfect fit, in the perfect spot, for maximum pleasure. It comes with ten different vibrational modes and is made of body-safe materials that are simple to clean and take care of.
This is another product from one of our favorite premium sex toy brands: Dame. This flexible vibrator has a shape that makes it more akin to a personal massager in a broad sense rather than your standard rabbit vibrator. It can give broad or very targeted stimulation depending on how you point it and where you use it. It has a flexible body and five different intensities as well as vibrational patterns built-in. It’s also completely waterproof and made of medical-grade silicone. All of Dame’s sex toys are top-notch quality, so you don’t have to worry about the standard of the materials you’re putting on, in or near your body.
This personal massager from LELO is built to give you a G-spot orgasm with a slight curve and flattened tip. It has 4-button controls so you can find your ideal intensity ranging from a titillating murmur to a mind-blowing, exhilarating pulse. You can also flip over the tip if you prefer to use it on your clitoris, and it’s sized for easily finding the G-spot on every woman.
Dame Aer Suction Toy
We love Dame’s new suction toy, the Aer, which is perfect for those who can’t get enough head. It creates pulses of air as well as a soft seal around the clitoris that mimics the sensations of oral sex like the flutter of a tongue or suction of a mouth. The seal makes sure nothing gets in the way of a potential orgasm and is designed to give you a quick, intense peak so you can fill the gap and get on to other forms of pleasure.
Satisfyer Pro 2+
This is another affordable, accessible, stimulating sex toy available for purchase on Amazon. Rather than standard vibrational pulses, the Satisfyer uses non-contact suction and airwaves to stimulate the sensations felt during oral sex. It has a strong motor but operates quietly once it hits your clitoris, so it’s perfect if you’ve got housemates or prefer to keep a low profile in general. It comes with 11 different intensities and is completely waterproof so it’ll make for a welcome addition to your shower or bath routine.
LELO SONA Clitoral Stimulator
This is another top-rated sex toy from LELO that’s designed to stimulate 75% more of the clitoris than your standard vibrator via sonic waves, pulses and a shape that targets the entire clitoris — not just the most intense spot. The shape, size and depth of the clitoris actually varies from woman to woman, and this toy is designed to hit it all. The sonic waves penetrate deeply and stimulate the waves of the clitoris that exist underneath the skin, so you reach deeper, more mind-blowing orgasms easier.
Womanizer Pro 40 Clitoral Massager
This clitoral massager comes with excellent reviews on Amazon as well as six different intensity levels. It’s made of body-safe materials that are designed to not irritate or bother your most sensitive skin, and it’s waterproof, rechargeable and can run for two hours on a single charge. It has a powerful suction but is designed to operate quietly so you can find just the right vibe.
Kimi Rechargeable Finger Vibe
Most vibrators take a concerted effort to use. They require holding and positioning in exactly the right areas, but finger vibes were invented to give you or your partner more precise control over the vibrations. These vibrators slip over your fingers, allowing you to explore pleasurable feelings where you need them most. In particular, we like the Kimi Rechargeable Finger Vibe as it gives you not one but two finger covers for double the fun. The rechargeable device has six vibration modes with six speeds each.
This is another finger vibrator from Dame that’s versatile, easy to use, small and perfect for adding a boost to your already stimulating touch. It has an optional tether you can loop around your fingers to make it easier to hold during action, and to integrate it seamlessly into your routine. You can wear it on the outside or inside of your fingers and it’s easy to pick up or drop off depending on where you’re at in your sexual experience.
All American Whopper
This is another 8-inch dildo of about the same size that’s also been crafted for realism and curved for maximized sensations. It has a flexible rubber shaft and balls for a realistic effect as well. It comes with strong suction in the base so you can use it hands-free and is made with Adam & Eve’s Real Skin technology for a lifelike feeling.
njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo
This is for those of you allergic to silicone or who want to try out a different material in the bedroom. Medical-grade stainless steel makes for excellent sex toys, and this dildo is curved to hit every pleasure point including and especially your G-spot. However, this is very much a multi-purpose toy, and we would recommend it to anyone interested in penetration of any kind. For guys interested in stimulating the prostate, this sex toy will change your life. It’s weighted to provide firm pressure, is temperature responsive to match where you and/or your partner are at, and is compatible with all lubricants.
Glam Bullet Vibrator
This bullet vibrator is super-charged and made for targeted pressure, sensation and stimulation right wherever you need it most. It has ten different levels of high-intensity vibration in a tiny little package you can easily slip into your purse, backpack or suitcase without anyone noticing. It has a super quiet motor and can go for nearly an hour on a single charge on the highest speed stimulation level.
Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator
This bullet vibrator from Lovehoney has an angled, tapered tip for pinpointed sensation that’ll translate to widespread stimulation. It comes with seven different pleasure patterns and three different intensity levels so you’ve got options in how and where you use it. It’s 100% waterproof, so bath play is fair game, and works perfectly with water-based lubricants.
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace
This is a bullet vibrator cleverly disguised as a necklace, and we love it. It’s made of stainless steel and has three different speed settings as well as a pulsing setting. It’s discreet and largely silent so it’s perfect for sexy date nights where you want to spice things up. It’s made of body-safe materials and comes in three different colors.
Best BDSM Toys for Couples
Lovehoney All Tied Up Bondage Kit
BEST BONDAGE SET
When we recommended this bondage kit in our Valentine’s Day gift guide, we warned guys to be careful. After all, if your sweetheart is expecting jewelry and flowers, this might be an unwelcome surprise. But for the right couples, this bondage kit for beginners has everything you need to have the best date night of your lives. The All Tied Up Bondage Kit from Lovehoney comes with eight different bondage toys including restraints, sensory toys and other sex toys for a stimulating date night.
Faux Leather Bondage Handcuffs
Most top-rated sex toys are expensive, and many bondage gear markers use only premium leather. As a result, all those whips, floggers, BDSM toys and blindfolds can get pretty pricey. For the couple casually exploring their kinks, that can be a turn-off. That’s why we love these faux-leather handcuffs from Adam & Eve. Handcuffs have long been one of the best sex toys for couples, and this adjustable pair is perfect for wrists and ankles.
Best Futuristic Sex Toys
OhMiBod Esca2 Powered by KIIROO
This is a wearable, bluetooth-enabled massager from OhMiBod that comes with an LED indicator for the speed and intensity, and can be controlled via an app from anywhere. The LED light can easily be turned off for discrete play, and it’s made of body-safe silicone. It works for up to three hours on a single charge and can be synced up with other KIIROO products for an immersive pleasure experience.
We-Vibe Moxie App Controlled Panty Vibrator
This sleek bluetooth vibrator is made to be inserted into underwear and can be controlled via an app from anywhere and a remote from up to three meters away. It’s whisper-quiet, so even the most sensitive ears won’t be able to detect a thing, and it has ten different vibration modes to choose from. It’s held in place magnetically for pinpointed stimulation and long-term wear without worry that it’s going to slip out.
Kiiroo Titan VR Sexual Experience
Remember Demolition Man with its strange sex scene between Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone? In the year 2032, the writers surmised that all sexual encounters would take place in a virtual world. Turns out, they weren’t far off. VR sexual experiences are one of the newest advances in sex toys. In essence, these kits use sex toys paired to a VR headset, allowing you to trick your mind and body into believing you’re having some sort of real sexual encounter. The Kiiroo Titan VR Experience is the leading kit in this new genre of toys, and it comes with a VR headset, lubricant and a vibrating stroker that can be paired to over 4,000 X-rated movies. Even without the stroker, VR pornography is a new and growing niche in the porn world.
RealDoll HarmonyX Sex Doll
Sex dolls have been around for a while, creating a fetish following among some men. But, for the first time, robotic sex dolls with artificial intelligence are entering the market. The first robotic versions appeared three decades ago, but in 2018, RealDoll took things one step further by adding artificial intelligence technology to their line of real-ish RealDolls. The RealDoll X-Series offers users life-size sex dolls with modular heads that can create a multitude of expressions as well as sensors throughout the body for a more interactive experience. RealDolls are also almost completely customizable. If you have the money and can get over the uncanny valley effect, they might be worth the investment. If science fiction is right, then this is going to be a hugely popular category of sex toys in the future.
Best Anal Sex Toys for Couples
Naughty Trainer Set Butt Plugs
BEST FOR ANAL PLAY
For couples that aren’t quite ready to try pegging or anal sex, consider this trio of petite silicone butt plugs. The three sizes let you experiment with the size that works best for you, and the easy-grip material is easy to hold even when covered in your preferred water-based personal lubricant.
B-Vibe Rechargeable Rimming Plug
Although anal toys have been around for a long time, B-Vibe is one of the first companies to really put a dedicated effort into creating vibrators for anal play. The Rechargeable Rimming Plug, in particular, has gone a long way to introducing users to backdoor sexual activities. The plug has a vibrating tip as well as rotating beads around the base to mimic rimming, also known as analingus. This butt plug is a great option for men who might want to explore anal fun but aren’t ready for the real deal or a full anal vibrator.
Adam & Eve Booty Boot Camp Training Kit
This “training kit” from Adam & Even is great for those who want to ease their behind into anal play and are starting from “beginner” status. It comes with three different smooth and flexible silicone plugs each with a tapered tip for increasing pressure without overwhelming your body. Each one is smooth but supple and is waterproof so you can use them in the shower, bath or wherever you’re most comfortable.
My 1st Surge Vibrating Butt Plug
This anal plug is also made for beginners with a doable 4″ size and 10 different vibrational patterns so you can find what works for you. It’s made from 100% pure silicone for comfort and has a safety base so it won’t slip further in than you want it to. It has an instant push button so you can click through the different functions easily and comes with a controller so you can relax and enjoy.
The History of Sex Toys
Sex toys have been around for a while. Some of the earliest sex-toy-like-dildo objects date back to between 28,000-30,000 years ago, and many appear in Greek and Japanese art. Chinese aristocrats of the Han Dynasty posessed some of the oldest sex toys known to man, as archaeologists have discovered jade butt-plugs and bronze strap-ons in their relics (kinky!). People creatively developed and used sex toys to stimulate pleasure all over the world — the Araucanian people in South America used bundles of horsehair to stimulate the clitoris during sex, and the Dayak people of Borneo pierced themselves in order to improve their partner’s pleasure.
Chinese Wa-Balls were invented for men and then adopted and re-sized for women’s pleasure, and in the 17th century sex dolls were invented by lonely seamen looking for comfort out at sea. How nice.
Even though human beings have been using sex aids for thousands of years, sex toys didn’t change much between biblical times and modern history. With the dawn of the electric age, enterprising inventors began selling vibrating machines to treat mental and physical maladies using vibration. For a while they were marketed as treatments for neck pain, weight gain, and even marital aids (no kidding) without directly addressing what they were — tools to help you orgasm. We’re slowly getting more and more open in this arena, but we’ve got a long way to go.
By the 18th and 19th century, sex toys were becoming more widely available in the West, even if the culture wasn’t so much sex-positive as it was sex-should-only-happen-in-the-sanctity-of-marriage-negative. The first vibrator, The Manipulator (scary name), was invented in 1869, and it actually wasn’t used to cure women’s “hysteria” as some modern folklore would have you believe. It was a steam-powered tool used for medicinal purposes, but was quickly adopted for other reasons, and became an excellent sex toy.
Fast forward about 100 years and the Hitachi Magic Wand hit the scene in the disco era. It was marketed as a neck massager but widely used for other purposes. Thanks to the 1960s sex revolution and the sex-positive ethos of second- and third-wave feminists, the last several decades have seen an explosion of innovation in the sex toy industry.
We’re now in the 21st century and the world of sex toys has exploded far beyond the wa-balls of yesteryear. In 2018, the sex toy industry was roughly valued at $26.5 billion, and the majority of adults surveyed said they used a sex toy regularly. It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to say that we’re living through a sexual renaissance, with exciting new ways to screw ourselves — and each other. Lovers can now use the best couple’s sex toys to spice things up in the bedroom, men can use prostate stimulators to treat themselves to a little butt stuff (or a lot of butt stuff), and women now have an entire arsenal of vibrators, dildos and clitoral stimulators at their disposal.
It’s truly a golden age for the orgasm! While we still have a long way to go in terms of solo female pleasure being normalized and the use of sex toys becoming less taboo, we’ve come a long way.
How to Clean and Care for Sex Toys
Due to the parts of our bodies that sex toys touch and the fluids that get on them, it’s crucial to clean them and care for them properly to avoid infection and help them last as long as possible. How to clean your sex toy largely depends on what it’s made of, simply whether it’s made of a porous or non-porous material. You can find this information easily on the box and plan accordingly.
A porous material has tiny holes in it, like pores, and needs to be clean in a slightly different way than a non-porous material. Some examples of porous materials are:
- Elastomer (rubber)
- Jelly rubber
Some examples of non-porous materials are:
- ABS plastic (hard plastic)
- Borosilicate glass
- Metals like gold or stainless steel
Porous sex toys, due to their design, tend to not get as clean as non-porous ones, since there’s always a chance bacteria are lurking in the tiny holes. If you’re using a sex toy solo or only occasionally this is fine, if you’re using it with a partner we recommend using one made of non-porous materials.
It’s a good idea to hand wash and dry your sex toy before and after every use. If it’s a waterproof toy you can run it under water, and if it’s not waterproof a wet washcloth will do the trick. Use a mild soap with no fragrance and dry it with a clean towel.
Porous materials can be sensitive to heat which can cause them to warp, so make sure you avoid excessive heat when washing these (a.k.a don’t put them in the dishwasher). Sex toys made of borosilicate glass, stainless steel and silicone can all be boiled for 3-4 minutes to fully sanitize if you’d like. You can also fully bleach borosilicate glass and stainless steel toys in a bleach mixture of one part bleach to 10 parts water for 10-15 minutes if you’d like, although it’s not necessary.
Frequently Asked Questions About Sex Toys
Sex toys are tools, mostly electronic, that vibrate, use suction, penetrate, etc to pleasure individuals or couples, and help make sexual experiences more enjoyable. They can be used by folks looking for solo pleasure or used with a partner, and they tend to be small and portable so you can take them, and use them, anywhere.
Sex toys used to be reserved for adult XXX stores with shady windows and intimidating advertising, but now you can buy sex toys online from many trustworthy websites including familiar retailers like Amazon. Dame, Lelo, Lovehoney and Adam&Eve are just a few of the online stores we recommend checking out.
Sex toys range wildly in cost, and like many consumer goods the cheaper you go the higher the chance is that you’re sacrificing quality. This is not a hard and fast rule, as we’ve included some affordable options in the list below that are top-notch. Most of the time, sex toys can cost anywhere between $10-$500, with most ones worth shaking a dildo at priced at $80-$200.
How you use a given sex toy depends on what its purpose is. A clitoral stimulator is meant to be used on a woman’s clitoris, whereas a massager wand can be used in a variety of ways depending on the preferences of the user. Don’t be afraid to get experimental! Don’t hurt yourself, but feel free to use these tools in different ways and find what feels good. It’s going to be different for each and every person and/or couple.
Most of the experts we talked to agreed on one toy in particular: the Hitachi Magic Wand. The original wand-style vibrator provides particularly intense external vibrations and is beloved by women around the world.
For most men, the classic Fleshlight is the best sex toy, if not the most adventurous. Fleshlight makes a variety of strokers, and the brand's Pink Lady Fleshlight is a great option for most guys.