Scientists believe that sex toys have been in use for thousands of years, and while they’re not totally sure when they originated, there are cultural artifacts spanning back 30,000 years. What can we say, people have loved getting it on, solo or together, for as long as we’ve been humans, which is a while. In fact, many of the first sex toys look remarkably similar to the ones you can buy today — phalluses of various sizes. While early sex toys may have been made out of bronze, jade and polished wood instead of silicone, men and women have been pleasuring themselves with fake penises for millennia.
Even though human beings have been using sex aids for thousands of years, sex toys didn’t change much between biblical times and modern history. With the dawn of the electric age, enterprising inventors began selling vibrating machines to treat mental and physical maladies using vibration. For a while they were marketed as treatments for neck pain, weight gain, and even marital aids (no kidding) without directly addressing what they were — tools to help you orgasm. We’re slowly getting more and more open in this arena, but we’ve got a long way to go.
We’re now in the 21st century and the world of sex toys has exploded far beyond the wa-balls of yesteryear. In 2018, the sex toy industry was roughly valued at $26.5 billion, and the majority of adults surveyed said they used a sex toy regularly. Now there are vibrators, rabbit vibrators (we’ll dive into the difference later on), clitoris stimulators, bullet vibrators, butt plugs, fleshlights, strap-ons, dildos — the list goes on and on. It can be a confusing world to navigate, especially because sex and intimacy already comes with a level of vulnerability. Not to worry, we’re here to guide you through it from top to bottom, and every orifice in between. In this piece we’re going to talk about:
- The history of sex toys
- The best sex toys in the world
- How to choose the best sex toys for your needs
- Some of the answers to popular sex toy FAQs
- How to clean and care for sex toys
We know there are many emotions when it comes to this topic — excitement, fear, intimidation, nervousness and elation. We’re here for all of it, and to guide you through picking the toys that are going to help you reach an “O” faster, pleasure yourself on your own in a more fulfilling way and/or make your sexual experiences with a partner mind-blowingly amazing. Ready? Let’s dive in.
The Titillating History of Sex Toys
Like we mentioned above, sex toys have been around for a while. Some of the earliest sex-toy-like-dildo objects date back to between 28,000-30,000 years ago, and many appear in Greek and Japanese art. Chinese aristocrats of the Han Dynasty posessed some of the oldest sex toys known to man, as archaeologists have discovered jade butt-plugs and bronze strap-ons in their relics (kinky!). People creatively developed and used sex toys to stimulate pleasure all over the world — the Araucanian people in South America used bundles of horsehair to stimulate the clitoris during sex, and the Dayak people of Borneo pierced themselves in order to improve their partner’s pleasure.
Chinese Wa-Balls were invented for men and then adopted and re-sized for women’s pleasure, and in the 17th century sex dolls were invented by lonely seamen looking for comfort out at sea. How nice.
By the 18th and 19th century, sex toys were becoming more widely available in the West, even if the culture wasn’t so much sex-positive as it was sex-should-only-happen-in-the-sanctity-of-marriage-negative. The first vibrator, The Manipulator (scary name), was invented in 1869, and it actually wasn’t used to cure women’s “hysteria” as some modern folklore would have you believe. It was a steam-powered tool used for medicinal purposes, but was quickly adopted for other reasons, and became an excellent sex toy.
Fast forward about 100 years and the Hitachi Magic Wand hit the scene in the disco era. It was marketed as a neck massager but widely used for other purposes. Thanks to the 1960s sex revolution and the sex-positive ethos of second- and third-wave feminists, the last several decades have seen an explosion of innovation in the sex toy industry. It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to say that we’re living through a sexual renaissance, with exciting new ways to screw ourselves — and each other. Lovers can now use the best couple’s sex toys to spice things up in the bedroom, men can use prostate stimulators to treat themselves to a little butt stuff (or a lot of butt stuff), and women now have an entire arsenal of vibrators, dildos and clitoral stimulators at their disposal.
It’s truly a golden age for the orgasm! While we still have a long way to go in terms of solo female pleasure being normalized and the use of sex toys becoming less taboo, we’ve come a long way.
How To Choose the Best Sex Toys for You
In researching the best sex toys, we talked to Dr. Jill McDevitt, a resident sexologist for the brand CalExotics. Dr. McDevitt holds three different degrees in the field of human sexuality. She notes that “the best sex toys are the ones that best meet your specific sexual need and goal (for instance clitoral stimulation during intercourse, or g-spot thrusting, or penile stroking, etc), but I do have go-to sex toys that I recommend to clients.” (We’ll cover those later on.)
In general, the best adult toys ever invented are made of body-safe materials, are durable, work discreetly and have a cult following. In reviewing the best sex toys of all time, you’ll sometimes find that a specific brand has become a generic name for an entire category of sex toys, like Fleshlights or Magic Wands. In addition to these famous sex toys, we’ve also included a few general categories like strap-ons and vibrators.
As an overview, you can classify most adult toys into one of the following categories:
We’ve included a few of each on our list. So, no matter your gender, sexuality or anatomy, we’ve got something for you. This list is extensive, so we’ve also included a “Best of the Best” list at the beginning, if you’re sick of scrolling and want to get to the good stuff. These are our favorite sex toys out of the best sex toys of all time, and the ones we recommend above the rest. If you’re just getting started and want something guaranteed to please no matter what — go with one of these top 5 toys.
The Best of the Best
1. Hitachi Magic Wand
Originally designed as a sports massager, the Hitachi Magic Wand was a huge part of the sex-positive feminist movement of the 1970s. Before the days of Amazon and mail-order sex toys, it was much easier for women to go into a department store to buy something for their sore muscles than it was to ask for a vibrator. The invention allowed many women around the world to experience orgasmic masturbation for the first time. The Magic Wand became so entwined in the sex industry, that eventually Hitachi took its name off the device. Today, it’s sold in the US by Vibratex and is simply known as the Magic Wand Original. Countless women can testify that it’s a powerfully effective vibrator.
In addition to those glowing reviews, Sexologist Alex Miller with Orchid Toys notes that “the Hitachi Magic Wand, which started it all, deserves its spot in the hall of fame not only because it was the first readily available toy but because it provides STRONG stimulation externally, which although not a guarantee for everyone, certainly works for providing pleasure to most women. Some toys work better for some women, but it’s almost never bad to suggest someone try the Magic Wand.”
2. Rabbit Habit Deluxe
If you’re looking for the classic Rabbit Vibrator, you want the Rabbit Pearl, which features three types of motion: “a lavender shaft that twirls for g-spot stimulation, ‘pearls’ that stimulate the sensitive opening of the vagina, and rabbit ears that flutter along the clitoris.” There are dozens of variations on this popular sex toy to choose from (Love Honey has exactly 69 different models), but the Rabbit Habit below is the most famous.
3. Pink Lady Original Fleshlight
A fleshlight is considered one of the best sex toys for men, and this one is available to order on Amazon and is backed with amazing ratings. It’s super easy to use and clean, and comes with strong suction for a realistic experience guaranteed to please! It’s made with patented SuperSkin material designed to be soft, lifelike and blow you away.
4. Satisfyer Pro 2
This is another affordable, accessible, stimulating sex toy available for purchase on Amazon. Rather than standard vibrational pulses, the Satisfyer uses non-contact suction and airwaves to stimulate the sensations felt during oral sex. It has a strong motor but operates quietly once it hits your clitoris, so it’s perfect if you’ve got housemates or prefer to keep a low profile in general. It comes with 11 different intensities and is completely waterproof so it’ll make for a welcome addition to your shower or bath routine.
5. Dame Eva II
While still a relatively new concept, the one hands-free vibrator that has really got the ball rolling is the Dame Eva II. It has a flexible winged design that sits comfortably between a women’s labia and is designed to provide clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex or other moments where you need a boost. It has a 3-speed motor so you can tailor the intensity to your liking, and it’s made of medical-grade silicone designed to avoid irritatation.
Part I: Wands
If the Hitachi Magic Wand isn’t quite your speed, then check ouot these powerful wand-style vibrators…
Doxy Extra Powerful Massage Wand Vibrator
This wand vibrator boasts 30% more power than the Hitachi wand. The cast aluminum head pulses powerfully for maximum pleasure and has a cushioned cover over it for comfort. It has user-friendly buttons that help you change settings between the deep rumble, energetic frequencies and other settings. This wand does require being plugged in in order to work, so keep that in mind if you prefer flexibility.
Mumu Sugar Wand Massager
This wand massager comes very highly rated on Amazon and is a great, affordable sex toy if you’re just starting off and don’t want to drop $80 right off the bat. It’s made of super-soft, food-grade silicone and works cordless, so you’ve got flexibility in terms of where you use it. It’s also waterproof, comes with eight speeds and 20 different powerful vibration modes.
Part II: Rabbit Vibrators
The second most famous vibrator of all time has to be the Rabbit. Originally marketed in Japan in 1983 by Vibratex, these vibrators were popularized in the U.S. by the 1990s TV show Sex and the City. Today, rabbit vibrators refer generally to any vibrating dildo that combines internal g-spot stimulation with vibrating rabbit ears for clitoral stimulation. Together these two parts stimulate both the vagina and the clitoris, allowing for the ultimate orgasm. Since day one, sex toy competitors around the globe have been creating their own versions of the rabbit vibrator, and today, there are plenty of these sex toys featuring soft silicone exteriors and multi-vibrational motors.
For a modern take on the classic Rabbit vibrator, you’ll want to go with the best-selling and reasonably-priced Better Love Lily vibrator, which is currently for sale via Ella Paradis. It’s made with dual motors for double the pleasure, and has ten different speed modes but operates quietly so you won’t blow the roof off your thin-walled apartment. It’s 100% waterproof and made with easy-touch buttons that are simple to operate.
We-Vibe Nova Rabbit Vibrator
This vibrator can be controlled via an app, adding to the potential sexual exploits you can get up to with a partner, and has a dual motor for both the G-spot and clitoral stimulation. The vibrator is made to have an adjustable shape and flexibility so you can find the perfect fit, in the perfect spot, for maximum pleasure. It comes with ten different vibrational modes and is made of body-safe materials that are simple to clean and take care of.
Part III: Personal Massagers
This sex toy, the Maude Vibe, came highly recommended by Alice Queen, founder of Vanilla is the New Kink, a sex blog aimed at helping couples find spice in even the most “vanilla” of situations. She raves about the Maude Vibe, saying it’s “hands down” the “best sex toy of all time for men, women, and non-binary people. It is simple to use — just one button handles everything from on/off to changing between the three intensities. It has an organic ‘teardrop’ shape, which means it is endlessly adaptable. No matter what your body shape and where you use it, you’ll find pleasure. And, wow, for something so compact, Maude Vibe is surprisingly powerful! It has a long battery life and it’s easy to clean.”
She goes on to say that “as a woman, the Maude Vibe is by far my favorite toy for clitoral stimulation, either solo or with a partner. My husband also says it is his favorite toy ever, which surprised me at first. He loves to have it gently pressed against his perineum during oral sex. He says it intensifies the experience to mind-blowing levels.”
There you have it. This sex toy is so popular it actually runs out of stock fairly often, and it’s currently only available for pre-order. We highly recommend you get on the email list for an in-stock alert whenever it does come back.
This is another product from one of our favorite premium sex toy brands: Dame. This flexible vibrator has a shape that makes it more akin to a personal massager in a broad sense rather than your standard rabbit vibrator. It can give broad or very targeted stimulation depending on how you point it and where you use it. It has a flexible body and five different intensities as well as vibrational patterns built-in. It’s also completely waterproof and made of medical-grade silicone. All of Dame’s sex toys are top-notch quality, so you don’t have to worry about the standard of the materials you’re putting on, in or near your body.
This personal massager from LELO is built to give you a G-spot orgasm with a slight curve and flattened tip. It has 4-button controls so you can find your ideal intensity ranging from a titillating murmur to a mind-blowing, exhilarating pulse. You can also flip over the tip if you prefer to use it on your clitoris, and it’s sized for easily finding the G-spot on every woman.
Part IV: Fleshlights
When most people think of sex toys, they usually think of some sort of vibrating object. While these can be fun for both men and women, there really wasn’t a toy to help men masturbate discreetly until the invention of the Fleshlight in 1998. These faux-vaginas look like a flashlight when they aren’t in use, but they simulate the feeling of a vagina when they are. In addition, Fleshlight has some products that are molded from the real vaginas of porn stars, if that’s something you’d like to try. Overall, the Fleshlight is probably the best male sex toy of all time.
Riley Reid Fleshlight
If you’re a straight guy, then you know the name Riley Reid. In fact, we would go so far as to say that the award-winning adult entertainer is probably one of the most famous people in the world. When she’s not making porn, taking your guy friends’ money on OnlyFans and starring in her own documentary, Reid also works with Fleshlight on her own line of branded strokers. She has two signature textures — Utopia and Euphoria, each one featuring fantastic textures and pockets of pleasure. It has tight, stimulating spots as well as ribbed pleasure channels. The coiled design makes it uniquely stimulating for all.
Part V: Clit Stimulators
For the longest time, the sex toy industry struggled to create a device that could imitate the joys of cunnilingus. It’s certainly a difficult thing to replicate as your partner’s tongue is usually wet and warm and can move at a personalized pace and pressure. While the sex toy industry still hasn’t managed to replicate oral sex 100%, clit stimulators, some of the top-rated toys get pretty close.
Dame Aer Suction Toy
We love Dame’s new suction toy, the Aer, which is perfect for those who can’t get enough head. It creates pulses of air as well as a soft seal around the clitoris that mimics the sensations of oral sex like the flutter of a tongue or suction of a mouth. The seal makes sure nothing gets in the way of a potential orgasm and is designed to give you a quick, intense peak so you can fill the gap and get on to other forms of pleasure.
LELO SONA Clitoral Stimulator
This is another top-rated sex toy from LELO that’s designed to stimulate 75% more of the clitoris than your standard vibrator via sonic waves, pulses and a shape that targets the entire clitoris — not just the most intense spot. The shape, size and depth of the clitoris actually varies from woman to woman, and this toy is designed to hit it all. The sonic waves penetrate deeply and stimulate the waves of the clitoris that exist underneath the skin, so you reach deeper, more mind-blowing orgasms easier.
Womanizer Pro 40 Clitoral Massager
This clitoral massager comes with excellent reviews on Amazon as well as six different intensity levels. It’s made of body-safe materials that are designed to not irritate or bother your most sensitive skin, and it’s waterproof, rechargeable and can run for two hours on a single charge. It has a powerful suction but is designed to operate quietly so you can find just the right vibe.
Part IV: Classic Vibrators
We-Vibe Unite 2 Vibrator
This vibrator is made differently from a rabbit vibrator but is still designed to stimulate the G-spot and clitoris at the same time. It loops around to target both, and operates quietly and discreetly so you can enjoy without disturbing others. Best of all, it can be used during penetrative sex to provide extra pleasure to both partners. It has a user-friendly single button as well as nine different vibrational patterns. It can also run for up to 90 minutes on a single charge, plenty of time for mind-blowing sensation.
5. LELO Billy 2 Vibrating Prostate Massager
When reviewing the best male sex toys, we named the LELO Billy 2 as the best vibrating massager for stimulating the prostate. We love LELO, a luxury sex toy brand that makes beautifully designed and effective sex toys for men, women, non-binary folks, couples, throuples and everyone else. This prostate massager has multiple settings so you can find the vibration that really works for you. Whether you’re an anal play beginner or a seasoned pro, this vibrating prostate massager is best in class.
Part VII: Finger Vibrators
Kimi Rechargeable Finger Vibe
Most vibrators take a concerted effort to use. They require holding and positioning in exactly the right areas, but finger vibes were invented to give you or your partner more precise control over the vibrations. These vibrators slip over your fingers, allowing you to explore pleasurable feelings where you need them most. In particular, we like the Kimi Rechargeable Finger Vibe as it gives you not one but two finger covers for double the fun. The rechargeable device has six vibration modes with six speeds each.
This is another finger vibrator from Dame that’s versatile, easy to use, small and perfect for adding a boost to your already stimulating touch. It has an optional tether you can loop around your fingers to make it easier to hold during action, and to integrate it seamlessly into your routine. You can wear it on the outside or inside of your fingers and it’s easy to pick up or drop off depending on where you’re at in your sexual experience.
Part VIII: Dildos
As we mentioned earlier, human beings have been using phallus-shaped devices for self-stimulation for thousands of years. It’s hard to think of a more classic sex toy than the dildo, which now comes in all shapes and sizes, from bubblegum pink dildos to realistic PVC phalluses complete with veins and testicles. For every penetrative need, there’s a dildo to match.
King C*ck Ultra Realistic Suction Cup Dildo
This is a freaking dildo if we’ve ever seen one. It has eight inches of insertable length and plenty of girth to satisfy. It has texture details for a lifelike appearance and has a suction cup base so you can attach and use it hands-free. It also has balls for a realistic effect and practical use as a handle.
All American Whopper
This is another 8-inch dildo of about the same size that’s also been crafted for realism and curved for maximized sensations. It has a flexible rubber shaft and balls for a realistic effect as well. It comes with strong suction in the base so you can use it hands-free and is made with Adam & Eve’s Real Skin technology for a lifelike feeling.
njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo
This is for those of you allergic to silicone or who want to try out a different material in the bedroom. Medical-grade stainless steel makes for excellent sex toys, and this dildo is curved to hit every pleasure point including and especially your G-spot. However, this is very much a multi-purpose toy, and we would recommend it to anyone interested in penetration of any kind. For guys interested in stimulating the prostate, this sex toy will change your life. It’s weighted to provide firm pressure, is temperature responsive to match where you and/or your partner are at, and is compatible with all lubricants.
Part IX: Butt Plugs
B-Vibe Rechargeable Rimming Plug
Although anal toys have been around for a long time, B-Vibe is one of the first companies to really put a dedicated effort into creating vibrators for anal play. The Rechargeable Rimming Plug, in particular, has gone a long way to introducing users to backdoor sexual activities. The plug has a vibrating tip as well as rotating beads around the base to mimic rimming, also known as analingus. This butt plug is a great option for men who might want to explore anal fun but aren’t ready for the real deal or a full anal vibrator.
Adam & Eve Booty Boot Camp Training Kit
This “training kit” from Adam & Even is great for those who want to ease their behind into anal play and are starting from “beginner” status. It comes with three different smooth and flexible silicone plugs each with a tapered tip for increasing pressure without overwhelming your body. Each one is smooth but supple and is waterproof so you can use them in the shower, bath or wherever you’re most comfortable.
My 1st Surge Vibrating Butt Plug
This anal plug is also made for beginners with a doable 4″ size and 10 different vibrational patterns so you can find what works for you. It’s made from 100% pure silicone for comfort and has a safety base so it won’t slip further in than you want it to. It has an instant push button so you can click through the different functions easily and comes with a controller so you can relax and enjoy.
Part X: Bullet Vibrators
Glam Bullet Vibrator
This bullet vibrator is super-charged and made for targeted pressure, sensation and stimulation right wherever you need it most. It has ten different levels of high-intensity vibration in a tiny little package you can easily slip into your purse, backpack or suitcase without anyone noticing. It has a super quiet motor and can go for nearly an hour on a single charge on the highest speed stimulation level.
Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator
This bullet vibrator from Lovehoney has an angled, tapered tip for pinpointed sensation that’ll translate to widespread stimulation. It comes with seven different pleasure patterns and three different intensity levels so you’ve got options in how and where you use it. It’s 100% waterproof, so bath play is fair game, and works perfectly with water-based lubricants.
Dame Zee Bullet Vibrator
This is a bullet vibrator from Dame that recharges via USB, a rarity with bullet vibrators for the most part, so it’ll always be raring to go. It comes with three different speeds and is built to be small, portable and easily usable. It’s water-resistant and made from ABS plastic that’s super easy to clean, so you can get it nice and messy without worrying about damage.
Vedo Bam Bullet
This bullet vibrator is made with smooth silicone rather than plastic, and is completely waterproof. It has ten different speeds, so it packs a serious punch, and it only has one button so it’s super easy to control. It’s powerful, and less than 4″ long so it can easily travel wherever you do.
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace
This is a bullet vibrator cleverly disguised as a necklace, and we love it. It’s made of stainless steel and has three different speed settings as well as a pulsing setting. It’s discreet and largely silent so it’s perfect for sexy date nights where you want to spice things up. It’s made of body-safe materials and comes in three different colors.
Part XI: Strap-On Dildos
Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-On Harness Kit
This is a great first kit if you’re interested in strap-on play because it comes with two silicone dildos for training and pegging, a beginner and an advanced one. The beginner one is 5.6″ in length with 3.6″ of girth, and the advanced dildo is 8″ long and 5.9″ in girth, for those who have gotten used to the first one. The harness is fully adjustable and comes with three different O-rings so you can mix and match throughout your exploration. Just be sure to use plenty of lube.
Lovehoney Advanced Unisex Strap-On with G-Spot Dildo
This is a strap-on for the more advanced crowd as the dildo is bigger, 7″ to be exact, and designed to hit a G-spot with precision. The harness is fully adjustable and can be worn by any gender, and is machine-washable so clean-up is easy. It has three different interchangeable O-rings as well, and there’s a pocket in the harness made to hold a bullet vibrator for added sensation.
Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Vibrating Strap-On
Another strap-on we recommend is this Perfect Partner strap-on that comes with a hollow, 8″ dildo that has three different vibrational speeds and seven different patterns of vibration. Most strap-ons don’t include vibration, this one does which is why we recommend it. It has realistic detailing like veins and skin details that add to the stimulating effects, and it comes with a wired controller that either partner can operate during the experience.
Part XII: Bluetooth Sex Toys
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, or just want to spice things up on date night, then you’ll want to explore the newest category of adult toys — Bluetooth sex toys for couples.
OhMiBod Esca2 Powered by KIIROO
This is a wearable massager that comes with an LED indicator for the speed and intensity, and can be controlled via an app from anywhere. The LED light can easily be turned off for discrete play, and it’s made of body-safe silicone. It works for up to three hours on a single charge and can be synced up with other KIIROO products for an immersive pleasure experience.
We-Vibe Moxie App Controlled Panty Vibrator
This sleek bluetooth vibrator is made to be inserted into underwear and can be controlled via an app from anywhere and a remote from up to three meters away. It’s whisper-quiet, so even the most sensitive ears won’t be able to detect a thing, and it has ten different vibration modes to choose from. It’s held in place magnetically for pinpointed stimulation and long-term wear without worry that it’s going to slip out.
LELO Tiani 3
LELO’s Tiani sex toy is designed for penetrative penis-in-vagina sex. It’s curved and flexible to stimulate both partners at once. The inserted portion provides intense vibration, while the outer portion hugs the clitoris at the same time. It’s bendy enough to fit all body types and it comes with a SenseMotion remote so you can control it easily from afar.
Part XIII: Vibrating Cock Rings
LELO TOR 2
LELO’s TOR 2 vibrating cock ring is one of our favorites in this area, and is boasted on their website as the “most sophisticated vibrating couples’ ring in the world.” It’s designed to provide both individuals in a couple with stimulation and intense pleasure, and is made of smooth silicone made to fit a variety of bodies. There are many different ways to wear it for a variety of sexual experiences and it gives the wearer more control over their partner’s orgasms for deeper, more intense lovemaking. It has a 2-button interface that’s simple to use, is 100% waterproof, and has six different pleasure settings.
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Screaming O Vibrating Ring
This vibrating cock ring from Screaming O comes highly rated for its ability to help both individuals in a couple orgasm, by stimulating the clitoris. It’s made of a flexible material designed to stretch around the penis and has pleasure nodes on the end that deliver vibration to the woman. The vibrating motor provides micro pulses that both individuals will enjoy, and it’s designed disposable so you can simply toss it when you’re done!
Part XIV: VR Sex Experiences
Remember Demolition Man with its strange sex scene between Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone? In the year 2032, the writers surmised that all sexual encounters would take place in a virtual world. Turns out, they weren’t far off. VR sexual experiences are one of the newest advances in sex toys. In essence, these kits use sex toys paired to a VR headset, allowing you to trick your mind and body into believing you’re having some sort of real sexual encounter. The Kiiroo Titan VR Experience is the leading kit in this new genre of toys, and it comes with a VR headset, lubricant and a vibrating stroker that can be paired to over 4,000 X-rated movies. Even without the stroker, VR pornography is a new and growing niche in the porn world.
Part XV: Robotic AI Sex Dolls
Sex dolls have been around for a while, creating a fetish following among some men. But, for the first time, robotic sex dolls with artificial intelligence are entering the market. The first robotic versions appeared three decades ago, but in 2018, RealDoll took things one step further by adding artificial intelligence technology to their line of real-ish RealDolls. The RealDoll X-Series offers users life-size sex dolls with modular heads that can create a multitude of expressions as well as sensors throughout the body for a more interactive experience. RealDolls are also almost completely customizable. If you have the money and can get over the uncanny valley effect, they might be worth the investment. If science fiction is right, then this is going to be a hugely popular category of sex toys in the future.
Honorable Mention: Vibrating Strokers
This innovative sex toy from CalExotics has multiple functions built into one sex toy, and has customizable levels of each. Dr. McDevitt explains it as “part penis stroker, part vibrator, and it also has 3 functions of compression from squeeze pads that customize the level of tightness, all within a self-contained unit.”
This toy comes with many different options that build upon the experience of a fleshlight and take it to the next level. Each squeeze pads adjust the level of tightness you feel with each stroke, and the tickling will help you reach new levels of climax you didn’t think possible. The easy-to-use silicone buttons on the device help you switch between the various functions and the chamber sleeves are easy-to-clean and require no special care before or after use.
Frequently Asked Questions About Sex Toys
Sex toys are tools, mostly electronic, that vibrate, use suction, penetrate, etc to pleasure individuals or couples, and help make sexual experiences more enjoyable. They can be used by folks looking for solo pleasure or used with a partner, and they tend to be small and portable so you can take them, and use them, anywhere.
Sex toys used to be reserved for adult XXX stores with shady windows and intimidating advertising, but now you can buy sex toys online from many trustworthy websites including familiar retailers like Amazon. Dame, Lelo, Lovehoney and Adam&Eve are just a few of the online stores we recommend checking out.
Sex toys range wildly in cost, and like many consumer goods the cheaper you go the higher the chance is that you’re sacrificing quality. This is not a hard and fast rule, as we’ve included some affordable options in the list below that are top-notch. Most of the time, sex toys can cost anywhere between $10-$500, with most ones worth shaking a dildo at priced at $80-$200.
How you use a given sex toy depends on what its purpose is. A clitoral stimulator is meant to be used on a woman’s clitoris, whereas a massager wand can be used in a variety of ways depending on the preferences of the user. Don’t be afraid to get experimental! Don’t hurt yourself, but feel free to use these tools in different ways and find what feels good. It’s going to be different for each and every person and/or couple.
Most of the experts we talked to agreed on one toy in particular: the Hitachi Magic Wand. The original wand-style vibrator provides particularly intense external vibrations and is beloved by women around the world.
For most men, the classic Fleshlight is the best sex toy, if not the most adventurous. Fleshlight makes a variety of strokers, and the brand's Pink Lady Fleshlight is a great option for most guys.
How to Clean and Care for Sex Toys
Due to the parts of our bodies that sex toys touch and the fluids that get on them, it’s crucial to clean them and care for them properly to avoid infection and help them last as long as possible. How to clean your sex toy largely depends on what it’s made of, simply whether it’s made of a porous or non-porous material. You can find this information easily on the box and plan accordingly.
A porous material has tiny holes in it, like pores, and needs to be clean in a slightly different way than a non-porous material. Some examples of porous materials are:
- Elastomer (rubber)
- Jelly rubber
Some examples of non-porous materials are:
- ABS plastic (hard plastic)
- Borosilicate glass
- Metals like gold or stainless steel
Porous sex toys, due to their design, tend to not get as clean as non-porous ones, since there’s always a chance bacteria are lurking in the tiny holes. If you’re using a sex toy solo or only occasionally this is fine, if you’re using it with a partner we recommend using one made of non-porous materials.
It’s a good idea to hand wash and dry your sex toy before and after every use. If it’s a waterproof toy you can run it under water, and if it’s not waterproof a wet washcloth will do the trick. Use a mild soap with no fragrance and dry it with a clean towel.
Porous materials can be sensitive to heat which can cause them to warp, so make sure you avoid excessive heat when washing these (a.k.a don’t put them in the dishwasher). Sex toys made of borosilicate glass, stainless steel and silicone can all be boiled for 3-4 minutes to fully sanitize if you’d like. You can also fully bleach borosilicate glass and stainless steel toys in a bleach mixture of one part bleach to 10 parts water for 10-15 minutes if you’d like, although it’s not necessary.