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The Best Sex Apps for Getting Frisky in 2021

We’re in the midst of a cold, dark winter my friends. It’s dumping snow in certain parts of the country, sub-zero temperatures in others and due to the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic indoor activities that would usually keep us warm are unavailable and/or a health risk. It’s a lonely one, folks — especially if you’re single. A surefire way to heat up this winter and thaw your lonely, frigid heart? Meeting someone. Dating and having sex (safely) is an excellent way to pass the time indoors while the weather continues to do its cold thing, and I want to help you do just that with the best sex apps.

Spy has plenty of content for sexuality once you connect with someone including wax play candles, sex games for couples and the best flavored lubricants. Having fun with your emotional and physical bodies with another person is an excellent way to connect, build a relationship or just mutually enjoy sexual pleasure. But, in order to engage with the best sex toys for couples or enjoy a nice sensual massage you’ve got to meet someone first. So, I want to help you do that using one of the most powerful avenues for doing anything these days — the internet.

There are many ways to use the world wide web for sex, so I’ve included sex apps for meeting people, apps for sex and app-based sex toys on this list. Once you’ve used the dating sex apps to find your partner the other ones will help you heat things up in the bedroom (or anywhere you decide to get down and dirty). Please remember to practice safe sex, consent in all its forms and be respectful of anyone you invite to sexually engage with. We’ll all get through these long winter months together.

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Dating Apps

1. Tinder


Tinder and the phrase “sex apps” basically go hand in hand. This app revolutionized app-based dating and made it what it is today — something pretty much every single young person does. You know the deal, you swipe left or right if you like the person and if you match you’ve got 24 hours to start a conversation. There are plenty of dating apps out there nowadays, but when I think of the one that’s most used for sex specifically, it’s got to be this one. Go out and get yours! It’s free to download.

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2. Bumble


Bumble set out to make online dating safer and more equitable, and I can say from personal experience they accomplished this goal. I encountered far fewer creeps on Bumble and enjoyed starting the conversations myself. This is what differentiates this app from Tinder and other similar sex apps is once you match it’s the female-identifying person who starts the chat! Otherwise, it’s basically the same as Tinder — you make a profile, set your preferences and swipe away!

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3. Grindr


Grindr is by far the most popular hookup app for gay and bisexual men, as well as other members of the larger queer community. It’s a location-based app that shows you available men in your area, and it updates depending on where you are. It’s a social networking app that’s used for dating and hooking up, but it has also dipped into other avenues relevant to the community they serve through engagement with social issues and original content. They’re all about helping individuals get “zero feet away” from the queer community that’s always around them. That being said, Grindr’s reputation is primarily as an app for finding hookup partners, and fast. Please use apps like this responsibly while we’re in the midst of a pandemic.

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4. Hinge


If you prefer really getting to know someone before hopping in bed with them I’m in full support of that. Whatever makes you feel safe is going to make you feel sexy, and Hinge is a great dating app for going a little deeper before hopping in the sack. Each dating profile on Hinge includes answers to prompts so it goes beyond just photos, and you start a conversation by responding to someone’s prompt or photo depending on which you resonate with. If you’re looking for a relationship rather than just a sexual encounter, Hinge is your best bet. It’s an app “built to be deleted” according to their website, which shoes you their commitment to having you meet someone in person, start dating, and delete your dating apps.

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Sex Apps

3. FetLife


Whether you’re deep in the kink world or a BDSM-curious individual looking to experiment this is a great app for exploring the extensive fetish community. FetLife describes itself as “unapologetically open” and is a community of kinksters, BDSM-enthusiasts and people interested in all sorts of fetishes. There’s a 24/7 newsfeed where you can connect with other kinky people, free messaging and live chat. They’re got sub-communities for Cyberfun, Swingers, Bondage and many, many, many more sexual subcultures. Don’t be shy — lean in! There’s much to be explored in the FetLife universe.

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4. PornHub


Whether it’s for solo play or to get in the mood with a partner, porn can be a great way to get in the mood, so to speak. PornHub is one of the largest databases for porn and erotic videos on the internet, and they’ve got an app for Android you can download to use on-the-go. There’s a lot on here so make sure you know what you’re looking for before diving in. The PornHub app has videos for nearly every interest, sexual orientation and sexual expression. The app and service is also free, with paid membership options.

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6. Dr. Kegel: For Men’s Health


Fellas, it’s time for a little PSA moment — kegels are not just for women. Kegels are a way to workout your pelvic floor, which is a muscle group closely tied with your sex organ. The muscles down there, like any muscle group, can lose one and strength over time. This app will help you work on your man kegels, last longer in bed and improve your sexual health one session at a time! It includes daily challenges for working out your groin, increasing blood flow and circulation, as well as insights, progress tracking and more. Want to last longer with your new or long-term partner? This app might be just the trick! Unfortunately, it’s currently only available on the Apple app store.

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7. 69 Positions


Need some position-inspiration? I get it — sometimes you get stuck in a rut and want to switch things up! This app will help. It’s chock-full of sex positions from butterfly variations to cowgirl, threesome poses and even rear entry. Whatever you’re open to trying they’ve got it — and probably a few more you didn’t know you wanted until you saw it! Download, scroll and pick a few poses for your next great night of sex.

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8. Desire


Want to game-ify your sex life? This app is the way to do it. Make a regular night of love-making into a sexual adventure with couple dares, points, sexual badges, a private chat and more! You challenge your lover to a dare and they can either accept or deny, and they earn points if they complete it. There are dares in all sorts of categories from Instagram to kisses, selfies and massage-related challenges. You can keep a diary of what you enjoy and all your points are stored in the app for future recollection. Dares range from “mild” to “daring” and you can send secret messages to each other through the app.

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Best App-Controlled Sex Toys

There are many app-controlled sex toys and pleasure devices out there but one of my favorite brands is We-Vibe, so I’ve decided to only include their products in this section. They’ve got an app-controlled device for everyone and have covered many pleasure zones in the design of their products. Whether you’ve got male or female sex organs their toys are great additions to the bedroom, and the ability to control them from a phone is convenient for in-person and long-distance couples alike. Here are a few of my favorites.

9. We-Vibe App-Controlled Rabbit Vibrator


This vibrator is a classic design that simultaneously hits your G-spot and clitoris at once. The We-Connect app can be used to control the device and change speeds, and it has a flexible arced arm for consistent clitoral contact. The G-spot stimulator is also movable so you can reach it consistently, and the whole device recharges via USB making it travel-friendly.

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10. We-Vibe Melt Clitoral Stimulator


Suction is another great way to stimulate the clitoris during sexual activity. This sex toy from We-Vibe can be controlled by the We-Connect app and has 12 different intensity levels to choose between. It’s whisper-quiet so it won’t ruin the vibe and is waterproof so the bathroom just became fair game for getting some action.

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11. We-Vibe Vector Prostate Massager


This toy hits the P-spot in all the right ways with an adjustable bulb built for finding the right angle. It also syncs up with the We-Connect app from anywhere so you can control via your smartphone, and it has two different motors inside and 10 different functions for getting things going. There are two different bulbs for hitting both the prostate and perineum at the same time, and both are flexible to find the perfect fit for your body. It also comes with a remote control with a range of three meters.

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Courtesy of LoveHoney