Whereas discussing bedrooms acts might have been considered taboo in the past, in modern times, it almost feels like you might be shamed if your sexual repertoire isn’t freaky enough. But don’t worry — there are plenty of ways to make vanilla sex a little more daring, whether you’re exploring your body on your own or with a partner.
Diving into the world of beginner sex toys as a newbie can feel complicated. These toys are a great way to spice up foreplay and explore all the different erogenous zones on your body, including nipple play, anal play, or just experiencing different sensations on other body parts. After all, your entire body is covered head to toe in nerve endings — make the most of them!
Remember: finding a toy that works for you isn’t about finding a sure route to O-Town. Sex is so much more than an orgasm — it’s about exploring what feels good. As the saying goes, it’s the journey that matters, not the destination. If you’re doing this with a partner, remember that communication is key every step of the way. Being comfortable and feeling safe is the first step towards a mind-blowing session.
There are handheld vibrators, as well as vibrators with an insertable aspect, that allow you to explore penetration and clit stimulation. There are also vibrators or dildos designed to specifically stimulate the G-spot, or if you prefer a hands-free experience, consider finger vibrators or cock rings to take things to the next level without interrupting that steamy chemistry.
It’s time to take that Netflix and Chill to the next level. Here are the best sex toys for beginners that make exploring new territory feel exciting rather than scary.
1. Dame Arc Silicone G-Spot Vibrator
BEST G-SPOT STIMULATOR
This vibrator isn’t just a game-changer for G-spot stimulation — it’s one of the most versatile and user-friendly sex toys for beginners you can get your hands on. Unlike complicated blended models or sex toys with hard, plastic exteriors, Dame’s rumbly Arc comes in the softest silicone you’ll ever feel, complete with a bulbous ridge that’s deliciously squishy, allowing you to press as hard as you want on any body part without feeling overwhelmed. The handle is long and easy to grip — you can even use it as a pre-playtime massage to relax you and your partner.
Dame Arc Silicone G-Spot Vibrator
2. We-Vibe Tango
One of the most classic sex toys for beginners you can get your hands on is the bullet vibrator. With an angled, lipstick-style tip that can be pressed against nipples, clits, or anywhere else, this discreet vibe with eight settings is a helpful intro to vibrators and can be used in the bath or shower. If you prefer targeted over broad stimulation, this is a fantastic starter piece. Its small size also makes it a beginner-friendly way to introduce toys into partnered sessions.
3. b-Vibe Triplet Remote Control Vibrating Anal Beads
A little booty play never hurt anybody — that is, unless you didn’t lube up properly and started with too-large anal beads. The b-Vibe triplet anal beads are perfect for those looking to learn more about anal play. Pro tip: when buying butt plugs, always make sure they have an anchor, which will prevent embarrassing emergency room trips or discomfort during your first anal adventure. This rechargeable toy even vibrates, recreating the feeling of a rim job, and comes with a remote control that can be controlled from up to 30 feet away.
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b-Vibe Triplet Remote Control Vibrating Anal Beads
4. Unbound Babes Cuffies
BEST INTRO TO BONDAGE
Being tied up in handcuffs during sex sounds hot theoretically, in a 50 Shades kind of way, but when you use real metal cuffs and are just starting out, they can cause more pain and discomfort than pleasure. Start with something like Cuffies by Unbound Babes, which offers a safe space for people to start experimenting with kinks without taking away all dexterity. Made from flexible, body-safe silicone, these attractive handcuffs are resilient and restraining without being uncomfortable or too elaborate.
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Unbound Babes Cuffies
5. JimmyJane Evoke Du-O
Newsflash: dildos and vibrators are definitely not the only kinds of sex toys for beginners to get acquainted with. The Evoke Vibrating Massage Wheel Vibrator is the first massager of its kind, combining a rolling (and vibrating) massage wheel with a dual side for internal stimulation. If you do crave penetration, the Evoke Du-O has your back. Otherwise, its wheel design can be rolled across you or your partner’s body, giving you goosebumps as it hits every pressure point possible.
JimmyJane Evoke Du-O
6. Tenga Smart Vibe Ring
When it comes to wearable sex toys for beginners, cock rings are a consistently popular choice. Since they’re hands-free, they allow you to be more focused on getting the results you want, rather than working to keep them positioned during sex. This innovative silicone ring doesn’t just vibrate — it has a flat upright stimulator to maximize clitoral (or perineal) contact. It also has better stretch than other rings that don’t offer much flexibility for different shaft sizes. One buyer loved how the ring stayed put “no matter how much we moved, sped up/slowed down, etc.”
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Tenga Smart Vibe Ring
7. Blowmotion Warming Rechargeable Vibrating Male Masturbator
Just like ladies need some extra help to get warmed up, dudes might also enjoy a little assistance in the form of a sleeve. If your partner doesn’t enjoy giving oral or you don’t like how it feels when they do, consider adding the Blowmotion Warming masturbator to your foreplay routine. This male masturbator actually heats up as it delivers pulsing vibrators, and while some say it’s too shallow of a depth to truly simulate a BJ, it’s a sexy way to initiate a hard-on for vanilla couples looking to experiment.
Blowmotion Warming Rechargeable Vibrating Male Masturbator
8. Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Finger Vibrator
BEST FINGER VIBRATOR
Most of us know how to digitally stimulate a partner or ourselves, but the Lovehoney 20-function finger vibrator brings more fun and versatility. While it can be used for clit, vaginal, and oral stimulation, the unique wearable nature of this toy acts as an extension of your hand, allowing you to tease and pleasure your partner as it seamlessly fits into your routine rather than interrupting it. A dreamy addition to a weekend getaway with bae. Dip the tip of this finger vibe into a water-based lube for even more sensation.
Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Finger Vibrator
9. Minna Limon
If someone came across Minna’s most popular offering on your coffee table, they’d have a tough time figuring out what it was — that’s how discreet it is. The appropriately named Limon comes in a round lemon shape, with the option of turquoise or celadon — both gender-neutral options. This versatile product offers vibes anywhere on your body that are more rumbly than buzzy. The stronger you squeeze on your Limon, the more intense the vibrations get. We love how it’s touch-controlled, offering personalization that truly works according to your needs.
10. Lelo Smart Wand Medium
Whether you like broad or targeted stimulation, the wand is a foolproof sex toy for beginners for any couple or person looking for powerful solo play. The only caveat? They’re usually too loud. But with eight massage patterns, Lelo’s invention is completely silent. Their smart wand can be used on any body part (not limited to the clitoris) for the ultimate tension relief. Unlike bulkier, traditional wands like the Hitachi, Lelo’s smart wand has a stunning look, and as soon as it makes contact with your body, it increases intensity level accordingly.
Lelo Smart Wand Medium
11. Liberator Wedge & Ramp Pillow Combo
BEST SEX FURNITURE
Sex furniture most definitely counts as a beginner sex toy, even though it’s not technically a toy. Introducing toys into your playtime can be intimidating and confusing for some, so we recommend starting with this well-designed wedge and ramp combo that elevates your existing experience, shifting the angles for a mind-blowing sensation. Whether you’re in doggy, 69, or missionary, adding a few inches of elevation or changing the angle can result in a completely new feeling. This best-selling combo is also perfect for providing additional knee or back support.
Liberator Wedge & Ramp Pillow Combo
12. Satisfyer Pro 2
BEST CLIT SUCTION
Dildos can feel like an aggressive intro to toy-induced orgasms, so if you’re looking for something to ease you into that new territory a little more gently, consider an air-suction clitoral vibrator, which delivers pulsing air to recreate the feeling of oral sex. With many of these toys, first-time users boast immediate orgasms in less than a minute and have even caused some users to squirt for the first time. There are plenty of expensive alternatives, but this lightweight model gets the job done without the extra dollar signs.