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Let’s just face it. Romance fizzles out after a while. For some couples, the fire can last years and for others, it’s mere weeks. No matter what it’s been, it’s still likely that every once in a while, it will be difficult to get sexy together. If you’re in a slump, you’ve probably tried aphrodisiac foods and sex toys, but we bet there’s one thing you haven’t experimented with yet. That magical tool to help you get steamy between the sheets? The best massage candles.

Relatively new to the sex market, massage candles are specially designed to burn into pools of body-safe oil. After the candle is blown out, this oil can be used to treat your partner to a sensual massage. The delightful aroma and the blissful, silkiness of the oil combined with the slight heat are very effective in setting the mood.

In addition, many massage oil candles provide benefits to the skin, like hydration and a reduction of redness, thanks to the various oils and butter used.

Before we dive into the best massage candles available right now, let’s first take a look at how to properly use these sexy tools for the best massage you or your partner has ever received.

How to Use a Massage Candle

Before getting down to business with a massage candle, it’s important to know how to properly use them. Although it’s rare to sustain a burn with these candles thanks to the low melting point of the oils used, it’s a good idea to follow the instructions during your sensual massage. Here’s how to use most massage oil candles:

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  • 1.) The length of time will vary by the manufacturer of the candle. What you do with this spare time is up to you and your partner.
  • 2.) Blow out the candle. This is very important, as you don’t want to have a live flame during the following steps.
  • 3.) Pour the pool of liquid directly onto your skin from about one to two feet above the skin. This will give the oil time to cool before touching you or your partner. Alternatively, pour the oil onto your fingers and apply it to the rest of your or your partner’s body from there. Some candles may also come with a spoon which you can use to spoon the liquid onto your skin.
  • 4.) Begin by slightly rubbing the oil into the skin, and then continue by giving a deeper massage to relax both mind and body.

If you’re ready to try a massage candle for yourself or want to buy one as a fun gift for your significant other, read on to learn more about the 11 best options available right now.


1. Maude burn no. 1


Maude offers modern intimacy in a clean, playful and upscale manner. So, it’s little wonder that their massage candle is the best on the market. This cruelty-free and paraben-free candle is made with skin-softening jojoba and soybean oils. The wick is 100% cotton and lead-free, and the low melting temperature of the oils means you can directly apply melted oil to your or your partner’s skin. When it’s burning, the candle provides scents of amber, cedar leaf, lemongrass, tonka bean and Medjool date to set the mood.

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2. Fleur De Spa Island Hibiscus Massage Oil Candle


Enjoy a tropical vacation from the comfort of your home with the Fleur De Spa Island Hibiscus Massage Oil Candle. The scent of the lovely hibiscus flower will transport you directly to a deserted island beach, but the natural coconut and soy-based oils in the candle will take you one step closer to paradise when your partner begins massaging them into your skin. The oils are infused with apricot oil, aloe vera, vitamin E, shea butter and jojoba oil, so not only will this massage candle feel blissful going on, but it will also help to moisturize and relieve skin irritation, too.

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3. MELONY Massage Candles


When you and your partner are rolling around between the sheets, things can get steamy real fast. It’s important to ensure your massage candle is made from edible wax, if you like to mix massage with oral pleasure. Thankfully, the MELONY Massage candles are safe to ingest. They’re made from 100% natural soy lecithin for a soft and silky texture. Plus, the pouring pot is reusable as a milk container once the candle has burned out.

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4. Kama Sutra Massage Candle Lubricant


One of the brands behind the re-ignition of the massage candle trend was Kama Sutra. This popular Amazon sex shop has a range of candles with scents from spicy cinnamon to tropical coconut. All are made from skin-conditioning coconut oil, shea butter and vitamin E to revitalize your skin as you enjoy an evening of naughty pleasure. It’s also important to note that these candles are completely wax-free and burn at a low temperature.

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5. EthosFragrance Lotion Candles


Much like candles in general, Etsy is one of the best places to look for massage candles, especially if you’re trying to find a fragrance that’s not quite mainstream. That’s certainly the case for more masculine scents, as most massage candles found on Amazon and other sex toy retailers tend to be floral or tropical in nature. The EthosFragrance Lotion Candles, on the other hand, feature scents from ‘Executive’ to ‘Knight’ and are made from 100% natural soy wax infused with pure jojoba oil.

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6. 2-in-1 Body Lotion Candle


While most candles on our list create an actual oil when burned, the 2-in-1 Body Lotion Candle actually makes a lotion thanks to the coconut oil, botanical oils and vitamins A, K and E from which it’s made. When burning, the candle provides scents of fresh figs and amber as well as a burst of floral notes. This makes a great candle to keep in your bathroom when you need a solo pick-me-up or in the bedroom when you want to make bedtime a bit more steamy for you and your partner.

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7. OpenMity Massage Candles


In addition to having stellar reviews, we love the OpenMity Massage Candles because they come in an entire sensual massage set. This includes the edible candle as well as a blindfold, a booklet of massage tips and a wooden pad on which to set the candle. Because of their popularity, OpenMity Massage Candles can be hard to find, but this lemon scent seems to often be in stock on Etsy. Buy it before it sells out.

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8. Lelo Flickering Touch Massage Candle


Lelo is one of the leading producers of sex toys, so it’s natural that their massage candle is one of the best and has the most sensual aromas, too. This certified body-safe candle is made with all-natural ingredients and has an eco-friendly wick. The non-greasy oil is long-lasting, for hours of pleasure. And, it’s available in three gorgeous scents: Vanilla & Crème De Cacao, Snow Pear & Cedarwood and Black Pepper & Pomegranate.

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9. NEOM Perfect Night’s Sleep Intensive Skin Treatment Candle


While not designed for sensual massage, the NEOM Perfect Night’s Sleep Intensive Skin Treatment Candle will help your skin feel divine and lead to a better night’s sleep, whether you apply it yourself or your partner does. Light the candle and hop into a long, warm bath. Then, blow out the candle and apply the pool of oil all over your skin. The candle is scented with 19 pure essential oils, including English lavender, jasmine and chamomile for relaxation. And, it contains almond, baobab and jojoba oils to soften and treat irritated skin.

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10. OSKIA Skin Smoothing Massage Candle


The thing that really sets the OSKIA Skin Smoothing Massage Candle apart from the competition is its lovely scent. Massage candles are often light on their aroma due to the nature of using oil versus wax, but OSKIA’s Rose De Mai scent really comes through within a few minutes of lighting the candle. In addition, it’s made from a mix of nourishing soya, coconut oil and beeswax to provide hydration to your skin during and after use.

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11. Sunday Riley Come Upstairs Massage Candle


The Sunday Riley Come Upstairs Massage Candle invites you to use all your senses as you indulge in foreplay. The candle is made from all-natural wax as well as jojoba oil and shea butter for a sensual feeling against your skin. In addition, it boasts hints of vanilla, sandalwood, honey and linden blossom for relaxation on demand. Finally, it’s important to note that this candle uses a 100% cotton wick, making it an eco-friendly choice.

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